questionswhat have you done, or will do, for your childrenā€¦


I'm REALLY hoping to put my kids through College. No one in my family has ever been expected to go so we didn't. Now that I'm older and Un-Collegely Wiser, I wish I would have went. So, I'm going to plant it into my kids heads that it's not an option.


@mommyleah: It's admirable of you that you want for your children to go to college, and that you may help them do so. should be an option. Insisting that they go to college is not incentive for them to go. They may not be college material & resent your interference. If they choose to go, that's great!! Please remember that YOU can still go. Don't make your children do something because you did not.

To answer the OP: Children grown - what I think they received from me: The ability to think rationally & make their own life decisions. I always gave both sides of every issue w/pros & cons as I saw them. We discussed everything openly.


@gmwhit: Both my children are grown as well. My daughter went to college and graduated. My son tried it for two years, didn't like it and came to work for me. He is now part of the business.

While I was an only child living with my mother, (mom divorced when I was 3 or 4) and, until they died when I was about 11 or 12, her parents. We didn't have much of anything except lots of love. Good values were instilled in me starting when I was very young.

The things I, and my late ex-wife, gave to our children included everything we were taught while growing up (love, caring, respect, tolerance, etc.) plus because of our work we were able to give them the choice of going to college or starting off their career with a good job. These opportunities were not available to me when I graduated from high-school. With our son he had to earn becoming part of my business. He exceeded all of my high expectations. Our daughter has an excellent career as well.


Legos...lots and lots of Legos.
And shoes that light up.

Oh, wait, that's MY wish list.


I let my kids use the internet. : )


One of the things I've been able to provide to my kids, that I didn't have, is a warm, dry home. Basics are covered, and the rest is icing on the cake...

...But, yes, they get icing, too.


I didn't give her five other siblings. Amazing what opportunities open up when your parents don't have more children than they can afford.


I have a three year-old son, and mostly I just want to help with his homework, be home from work for dinner as much as possible, and also keep him learning a musical instrument until he's out of my home.

I'm sure he will feel I missed or overemphasized some things and attempt to correct my shortcomings with his child(ren).

As others have said, I won't be giving my child siblings. Each parent can decide what is best, and money certainly isn't the answer to all of life's problems, but I don't want to look my child in the face and tell him he can't go to a fun summer program or learn karate because it's diaper money for a younger sibling. Some people have more money, and that's great, but I don't.


Both my parents worked all my life as a child - so I spent afternoon's in day care, etc.

So at age 30, I left my job (7 year employee) when my son was born to raise him from home while my wife went back to work after maternity leave. Yes, I do run a home based business now, but I will have been out of the corporate world for 6 years this August. My second born came in 2008 - so I've been raising two from home since.

Now comes the big question for me - once the youngest is in elementry school (2013), is it really necessary for me to continue to stay home. I like working for myself, but I enjoy "certainty" more - the family has brought that out of me. Then again there is no certainty in the corporate world any more.


@gmwhit: HI! Sorry didn't see this a few days ago. I'm not so much as forcing them to go just going to be rooting them on for getting good grades and working hard while also letting them know they can go to college and that's really exciting! My parents didn't ever really mention it to us so it sounded more like a lame thing to do. I want them to be excited and want to go to college.


@kbsig106: I am in the same boat as you except my Mom was always at home when I got home from school and it was the best feeling. One thing my Mom gave me was lots of loveand that's something money cant buy. If your home based business is doing well I say stay home for your kids. They will always appreciate your for what you can give that so many other parents can't offer while at work.


I will try very hard to put people into political office who will not give away piles of money to freeloaders and then stick my kids with the debt.


@kamikazeken: So, just say no to the GOP, right?


@purplefeather: I tried that. No more than two kids.
Per wife.
After a couple of decades, tho, the line of ex wives piled right up.
But ANYway, this wife and i have been overly generous. Too generous.
The "baby" is in his mid 30s, and he has a hard time dealing with life and money. And Mom can't say no.

A nice method of teaching kids, rather than college, is going in with them on a rinky dink business. Win or lose, they will learn more about people, business and life in two years that any five years of college.
Plus it's the American way- live above/behind the deli/print/sandwich etc shop, and everything is a write off. Everything.