questionswhat's a good gift for my wife on our 18th…

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From what you've told us so far, I suppose a cruise would be out of the question!

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This seemed like such a loving question... Then came the details. Perfect gift? A divorce. :D

Seriously, an amazing vacation.

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Always go with diamonds.

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A surprise cruise/trip to Disneyworld worked at my house!

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She's way ahead of me. She just booked an overnight stay at a B&B in the Honeymoon Anniversary suite.

If I want to get her a ring, how can I discreetly find out her ring size?

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@ojulius: We save the cruises for every fifth year, so that means I have two years to go alone (or with the help of all of you) and come up with my own gift.

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@dangela424: The easiest way is to take one of her other rings (not wedding or engagement, of course) and any jeweler should be able to tell you what size it is using a sizing tool. Alternatively, you can print out one of these (http://tinyurl.com/5wlwgnb) and lay her ring on top of it, but that might not be as accurate.

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@thefenst: Thanks Man! (or woman, I guess I really don't know what gender the fenst has.)

I didn't know about the printable ring sizer.

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@thefenst: I've not met too many female history buffs, so I'm going to have to go with male.

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@thefenst: No offense. My user name has a little gender ambiguity, as well.

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@dangela424: I have an easy, and accurate way to tell the correct size for your wife's ring. I stopped off and briefly chatted with my favorite jeweler, and it turns out to be simple. The shoe size corresponds to the correct ring size (the assumption here is that you mean the ring finger, of course). You may need to go half a size up if your wife is plump, or arthritic, but this is usually right on the money. Just check the sizes on the shoes in her closet, and you should be good.

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@shrdlu: That is EXCELLENT! I know her shoe size. Thanks!

Now, what kind of ring?

PS - I plan on posting a pic of the ring that you guys have chosen.

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@dangela424: What kind of ring? That depends on a whole lot, including your financial situation, and your preferred budget. You say 18th, which doesn't have the special association that 10, or 25, or 50, or 75 might have. Heck, it isn't even the 20th.

Here's some help:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_anniversary
(Porcelain for 18)

Note that traditionally, after the fifteenth, there's no real celebration until the 20th, and it doesn't get significant until the 25th. You don't say whether or not there are children. If you have two or three, you could do two or three semiprecious stones (or diamonds) on silver (or gold). You might also consider a pleasant dinner ring (aka cocktail ring), and then have the inside inscribed with "18 wonderful years" or similar.

I'll wait until you return to provide more suggestions.

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@shrdlu: I am not so sure about this while I am a size 12.5 shoe my ring size has varied in my life I was up to a 15.5 in high school (class ring) but am now down to 13.5 (wedding ring) that can easily slide off. I am sure weight had something to do with this but did not follow very well. I was very overweight in my freshman year but lost 100 lbs by mid sophomore year. (my shoe size went up to 12.5 in this time from 12).

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@caffeine_dude: You are male, are you not?

[Edit] In addition, this is a general rule, assuming a normal body weight, and no arthritic joints. I am quite sure about it. After the jeweler told me this, I insisted on checking with four random people (including myself, and I have arthritis). It's a pretty good metric.

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@shrdlu: She would probably like something that she can just wear all the time. $400-500. We've done the birthstone thing before, so maybe just diamonds. She prefers white gold instead of yellow.

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@dangela424: How long do we have? Is the lead time a few days, a couple of weeks, or more? I have "resources" that I can drag into this (you do NOT want me to go looking; I have no common sense whatsoever about jewelry, and will happily lead you off to Tiffany's and similar).

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@shrdlu: We have until about April 20th. Thanks.

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@dangela424: An old friend just came through, and suggested this site for you to look at.

http://www.diviene.com/diamond-rings.html

There are some really beautiful rings on that page; very romantic, and quite reasonably priced.

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@dangela424: you could always say you (read this theory/ helping someone at work) on ring sizes and measure her feet and ring size, throw away the shoe size after confirming @shrdlu: 's theory.

@shrdlu: Yes I am male missed that part of the theory, sorry.

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FYI: I went with a local jewelry shop and got her a three-stone diamond ring. A little over 1 carat for way over my budget. But, hey, she puts up with me, so she's worth it.