Do you maintain online-only friendships?
I participated pretty heavily in quite a few chat rooms and message boards when I was maybe 11-15, and consequently made a lot of friends. I managed to keep up with them (and make new friends) when LiveJournal and similar services started becoming popular. Through all of that, I made a lot of what I considered to be really good, kind, supportive friendships.
Facebook has enabled me to re-find and stay in touch with a lot of them, and while I've drifted apart from some, there are others I still regularly chat/message with online.
What about you, Wooters? Maintain any online relationships besides casual acquaintances whose usernames you recognize?
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heyjoie
asked 7 months ago
Absolutely! Even though I have met a good portion of the people I regularly chat with, I do have several friends I've met through gaming that I've never met. We've been friends for years online, played lots of different games, etc. Just not met.
Have made a couple of friends online that I've met offline - fellow writers - easy when you have something in common like that. They're good people, the kind that become lifelong good friends.
Had one I met through a blog who recently was discovered to be luring roommate candidates through Craigslist, kicking them out a few days after they moved in and taking out a protective order against them so they couldn't come back to get their belongings, and selling all of it. Needless to say, have cut off all contact with him. Very scary stuff.
@inkycatz, a lot of my original online friends were people I met through the old Playstation message boards. Something about gaming that brings people together, I suppose. :) I have never gotten into online gaming, but I should.
@nastyducky, that's horrifying! D: Just... wow. I don't think I've ever encountered anyone that turned out to be in any way predatory, fortunately enough.
Absolutely. Most of the people I have never met in person, but talk to them almost every day. Instant messaging is great for that.
@nastyducky: wow that is scary!! who does that? honestly.. sheesh
anyway, yes i maintain only-only friendships. like all of you here! my good friends! (((((wooters))))
what's that you say? oh.. you guys aren't my friends? WELL FINE! fine, i didn't like you all anyway! *sniff* i just.. i thought that maybe...
oh forget it!
@w00tgurl: Here - a box of tissues for you. And 1 sheet each of BACON, mustache & cupcake paper. Wrap it up! Please remember that I cyber-like you, even though you take advantage of that BACON thing. I would never to that... though I do love BACON.
@w00tgurl: Oh, you know we are... here, here's a nice cookie...
@nastyducky: wow was the guy arrested?
I only maintain online-only enemies. The friends I make online become real-life friends eventually.
I made friends through Xbox360 over 6 years ago. They were the first group of guys to treat/accept me as a "gamer" and not a just a girl on Xbox. Since then I will only play with them or alone. I try hard to maintain that casual relationship even though I've been gaming on PC lately. I have most of them on my Facebook but I've never met any IRL.
They are my "online friends" who are still important enough to keep in contact with. :)
To an extent. Most of my good Xbox friends have my # so we can BS and set up games and ask questions.
@webfoot08: He's "under investigation". The Sheriff's office in that county is trying to track down a couple of the people he victimized. That's the last I heard, last week.
Nope. Surprised this many of you do, in fact.
If I have never met you before, I'm not adding you to my facebook. Not that I'm snobby, but I don't need my news feed clogged up with pictures of people's kids I don't even know. Meanwhile my brother's pictures are pushed so far to the bottom, I miss them.
Yep, I sure do! Especially as a gamer who has played a lot of Massively Multiplayer Online games in the last 15 years, I've met a lot of people in those games. Overcoming challenges together and spending hours together, regardless of it being a game, can get you pretty familiar with people you wouldn't have met otherwise! I don't have a lot of online-only friends, but I do have a few that I've been in touch with on and off for many years - and some I talk to almost every day. Whether I've met them in person or not - if we share common interests, its nice to have somebody to talk to. Plenty of great people out there you'd never meet without these online services to bring you together!
As for lots of baby pictures showing up on Facebook - even if its somebody I know in real life, they get hidden on my Facebook pretty quick that way. I mostly use instant messager to keep in touch for reasons like that :)
yes, and I have online only enemies as well
i'm also shocked at how many people do this.
i can't as i don't find it practical or realistic. however selfish this may sound, part of great friendships is the ability to back each other up in times of need...someone to fallback on and pick you up from that rut. if i fell ill or miserably depressed...how would my online friend comfort me? through letters on my LCD? same thing with celebrations...a barrage of smiling emotes and mechanical IM laughter can't replace one good drinking party or celebratory dinner.
that's just me, though...guess i need physical contacts (no pun intended).
I tried, but I ended up marrying her.
Also met through MMO. :P
Yes I do. Also met through MMORPG's. I did have 1 or 2 when I used to "journal" but didn't keep in touch.
I love the fact that some of the people I've become friends with, are in different countries (and I'm VERY grateful that they speak/type English!) We've never met in person and will probably never meet in person but through online communication, via games, forums, messengers, including the ability to actually talk to each other (woo for accents!) these friends know more about me then some "friends" I know in real life.
I have 2 Best Friends (if we're going to label!) one I've known for over a decade, we hang out a few times during the year, we email and talk via phone during the week. The other I've known almost as long, met via an online game. We "chat" every day via email/messenger/game, not so much on the phone.
Both have the ability to "back me up in times of need". Letters on my LCD are as sincere as words spoken in person. In fact, those letters on my LCD (CONTINUED)
are more "permanent" because I can read and re-read them, a spoken conversation, forgotten over time.
I guess it just depends on what you NEED. I don't need drinking parties or celebratory dinners. Some people may not understand that I can be cheered up with computer pixels in a game. Sometimes he'll find a picture to email me to cheer me up - and it works. Do I wish we lived closer so we could hang out offline? Absolutely! But for now, those letters on my LCD work wonders.
I consider that "online" friend, my Best Friend "in real life". Sometimes I forget we have never met in person.
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