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What is the norm for Valentine's Day gift-giving?

Specifically, I was wondering if the guy is supposed to get the girl something and how much is appropriate? Is the girl supposed to get the guy something?

My girlfriend and I don't really see what the big deal is about giving gifts on Valentine's Day (especially since it's so close to my birthday). She says she doesn't expect anything; is this a trap?

by straub
asked 4 months ago

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Get her a little something and tell her you didn't. Gauge her reaction and if she doesn't seem perfectly fine, just pull the old "Surprise! I got you ______ for Valentine's Day!!!!" and give her the gift. If she seems happy that you got her nothing, return the gift to the store and get your monies back. Trap thoroughly avoided, assuming you can tell how she feels.

Now the gift should be something small, maybe a nice pair of earrings, or a gift certificate to a spa? I don't know if the latter is returnable, but those are just a few things. Also, maybe give her a sweet Valentine card

captainsuperdawg
4 months ago

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never return the gift. if it's something that you want her to have then you give it anyway regardless of what day of which month it is. and a v.d. gift doesn't have to be the traditional stuff (the better gifts are always something that fits the person, not just chocolates,flowers,or plush).
as for the "trap" question you have to ask yourself is she that kind of person?

moosezilla
4 months ago

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@moosezilla: While I see that point, the girlfriend may feel bad/disappointed because he got her something and she didn't get him anything. @straub, maybe instead of returning it, just save it for later and have it be one of those "I just got you something because I love you" gifts.

captainsuperdawg
4 months ago

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@captainsuperdawg: trust me. the girl almost always has a stashed something just in case around holidays. but yes, saving it for later is a better idea than returning it. and if you're early in the relationship just go for the very nonpushy side--a pretty scarf or a single carnation or movie tickets or such

moosezilla
4 months ago

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My wife and I don't always celebrate Valentine's Day. Sometimes our lives have been to busy and then there's the Olive Garden's etc. are always busy. I've always gotten her something. My wife likes whatever I get her just because it came from me (guess I got lucky with that).

We do, however, celebrate the day I asked her to marry me which was the 16th of Feb so it's little easier to go out.

Of course, if I was smarter when I was 18 I'd have proposed on Valentine's Day.

This year makes 33 years of marriage!

mtm2
4 months ago

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While I would advise getting her a little something, at the very least make sure to get her a card. Here in Ohio, we also get hit with "Sweetest Day" in October that is like Valentine's Day Jr. - a made up holiday by American Greetings which is based in OH.

chipgreen
4 months ago

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It's a trap... No mater what she says always buy a VDay gift!

darkinc
4 months ago

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@mtm2: Congrats and I agree with @darkinc it's totally a trap. Get her a single sweetheart rose and plan to make dinner together. Romantic, cheap, and effective.

flyinggirl
4 months ago

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