Do you want visitors when you're in the hospital?
I know. Strange question, but this has long been a point of contention in my family and I would appreciate some outside viewpoints.
My inlaws generally do NOT want visitors when they are in the hospital. Visitors seem to scare them. "OMG I must be dying and these people are here to tell me goodbye!" They have been know to tell no one they even had surgery until they return home!
OTOH, my family is even wierder. No one is allowed to stay in the hospital alone. The minute someone is hospitalized, regardless of the reason, all family members are expected to drop everything and move into the hospital! I have spent literally hundreds of hours sleeping on waiting room floors, in uncomfortable chairs in patient rooms, etc. My mother is undergoing some in-patient tests now, so I have driven 150 miles to take turns sleeping in her room lest she need a sip of water during the night. Any effort to suggest that she would be fine alone makes me the bad daughter. Argh!
Advice? Other views? Pity?