questionswould you spend 60,000 dollars to fight for…

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That sort of thing is very circumstantial. It's about the people involved, not the dog. But if they both actually loved the dog, they'd be willing to work out a custody agreement where the dog spent 3 or 6 months in each home. It doesn't have to be a bloodbath. But to answer your question, if I was certain that the pet was being well-loved and cared for in their new home, I would probably let it go and adopt a new pet. There are so many animals that need loving homes that there's no reason for one to be torn in half by two loving homes wanting the same dog. The real nightmare is if you thought your ex was going to take it out on your pet and you couldn't protect them. The scant rights afforded animals in our society make them an excellent hostage. There's a movement to add pet facilities to family violence shelters, as there are many cases of people staying in an abusive relationship because they won't abandon their pets to take the brunt of the abuse.

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No. I thought maybe this was some special TV actor dog or something, but no. This is just somebody that either can't get over they had to split with their animal, or is just nutso. That is way too much money to spend. Think of it this way: how many cats and dogs who have at least as great a personality could have been saved with $60,000? Quite a few.

I'm very thankful that my ex wife and I were able to very rationally and amiably split up our collective pets with no acrimony. I still miss our African Grey parrot. The one really selfless thing she did (during our entire relationship, I think) was to let me keep Toysha the cat. Tash was hers from before we met and I assumed she would keep her. What she said was "You should keep Toysha. She likes you better. She'll be happier here."

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In 10 years, max, the dog will be gone. I hope they're happy with the money spent at that time.

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@moondrake: "if I was certain that the pet was being well-loved and cared for in their new home, I would probably let it go and adopt a new pet"

^ This.

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No. Not even to piss off a spouse.

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This makes me hate everything.

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@rsmoker: but mostly that guy's pants and socks.

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$60k for a pet? Sorry, the guy would be better off spending it on therapy. And save half of it.

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If I had that kind of money, I would. My dogs are my kids and I love them.

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I was perfectly willing to disappear with my dogs and go completely underground to ensure that I could keep them. Of course, I finally left after years of violence and two attempts to kill me only because I was afraid that the dogs would get hurt in the process of trying to protect me from my ex-husband.

I have no living family and one of my biggest concerns is who would adopt my two munchkins if something happened to me. There were moments during the past year when I thought about killing myself because I believed my ex-husband would never leave me alone, and I'd look at them and think that no one could ever love them as much as I do. They absolutely motivated me to save my life, several times over, and I'm so glad that they did because the three of us make one happy little family. I try to be conscious of the line between "dog" and "child" and make sure that I remember that they're dogs, but I fully admit that I adore them and love them to an extent that is entirely irrational.

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I wish I had the kind of money to spend on something like that. Sure, I would love my pets, but I still think I could come up with something better to do with 60k than a custody battle. Shrug...

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@neuropsychosocial: I salute you for making the break from an abusive relationship. Although I don't have personal experience, I know from my work in social services that it requires a great deal of courage and strength. And I am entirely with you on that whole irrational adoration thing.

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I would BARELY pay that for my real kids. Sorry Phideaux, but the pound has more dogs.

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I agree with @tsfisch on this one. 60K ain't easy to come by...pets are.

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A hit on the ex would probably cost less.