questionswill you help?! picking out a girl's name is…


A little late to the party, but since Baby Girl isn't here yet, I figure there's still time.

I'm a teacher, and I beg you to always spell and correct pronunciation of your child's name with grace and without rancor. I pretty much hate the first day of school, reading rosters, and inevitably pronouncing things wrong. Not simply for getting the name wrong and thus marring our first meeting, but because ohh 7/10 students respond with a sneer, attitude, or exasperation that "Marqus" is pronounce "MarCUS" not "MarKWEES".

That being said, name her something with meaning. Something special, to give her a smile and remember you with fondness as she ages. My name honors several women in my family and means something very special to my parents. When my husband and I named our daughter (it took us all 9 months too, don't worry, you're not alone), we gave her a name that both honors mine and a dear friend who passed away. It is special and sweet and ultimately fit her best.

Best of luck to you!




My son has a classmate named Chive. I though I misheard him, so I asked if he'd meant "Clive." No, Chive. C-h-i-v-e. Then I had to explain why I was laughing. Soon enough, those kids will know what chives are, and the boy will never hear the end of it.

Please, do not do something like this to your child. Otherwise, I'd try to go with something that was a subtle nod to your tastes without being obvious to the majority of the populace. Fellow gamer geeks will get it, but your kid will not get "why did they name you that?" from their friends.


My only suggestion is that you remember this is her name. You pick it for her. It's an awesome responsibility for you to chose carefully. She will carry the name you give her for her whole life. It has to grow old with her and not sound stupid (think stripper names or names that will sound dumb for a grandma. Can anyone seriously see a Grandma Blue Ivy?).

Additionally, if her name is not chosen wisely it could hurt her in obtaining professional jobs when she is an adult. Like it or not people have preconceptions based on the names on a resumes. There are reasons why names like Elizabeth, Mariam and Hannah have been around for centuries.

And lastly spell the name as it should be spelled. Andruw with a U instead of an E isn't creative, it just makes the parents look at worst illiterate or at best just bad spellers.


A name is such a vital part of a person's identity. So I think that one with built in flexibility allows the child to go by what fits them at different parts of their lives. That is why I really like Elizabeth. You can turn it into Beth, Liz, Lizzie, Elle and probably a few more. My little brother was Jimmy until about junior year of high school when he switched to James because that sounded more mature.


@flyinggirl: You aren't kidding about the initials. Just last night at dinner, my 6th-grade son was getting a huge kick out of telling us about a girl at school. First name Allison, last name Snyder. He found out her middle name is Sarah. Poor kid has to make it through middle school with those initials.

As for suggestions:
Val (short for Valentine)


@giaimo13: My older brother went through high school with the nickname "Two Dogs" because of that joke. : ) For the record, it was among his friends, not mean-spirited.


Grats on the baby! (I am still giggling at j5's suggestion.)

There are so many great names. Here's some more ideas: (I like Chloe and Samantha)

My personal favorite suggestion from this thread, and just in general is Ada. Ada Lovelace, Ada Wong (Resident Evil)... lots of good Ada reppin'. However you always want to be mindful of initials... for that reason alone I'm going with Jade from Beyond Good and Evil.


I'm saddened that we all missed the obvious.
Gillian Anderson

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Congrats on the baby. 2 suggestions for you. 1) make sure to check that the initials of the names you chose don't suggest something you don't like. And 2) picture yourself yelling her first and middle name out. If it flows, go with it.
Good luck.


@j5: ya doof! "Lava King" still makes me giggle.

Another few thoughts on names: when choosing a name, pay attention to your face/mouth when saying the name. Does your mouth draw up into a smile as it might when you say "Susie," or downwards as it might when you say "Bronte?"

Whatever you do, be conscious of the fact that kids can be downright cruel rhyming little punks and will use that talent in the most hurtful ways: Fatty Pattie, Bart the Fart--you get my drift.


@curtisuxor: Nice. I also like "Abigail," after John Adam's wife, a brilliant woman widely understood to be John's personal counsel on important matters.

Or, for the nerdery, I was going to suggest "Zelda" (also F.Scott Fitzgerald's wife, if that counts) but if she went back and played the original, she'd probably give Link her own name and get stuck playing the harder Second Quest.


Ultimately whatever name you two choose will be PERFECT in your mind….which all that matters anyways. Just remember that you will be saying it over 2,000,000 times within the first two years, so I’d stay away from anything too long/fancy cuz it’ll get shortened pretty quickly.
Also, speaking from experience, try not to expose your name choice until after the birth…especially to your good friends or parents. They tend to be awful judgmental and will most likely criticize your name choice without even knowing it (roll of eyes, “oh, that’s nice”, etc). It’s your special moment….let it stay yours.


Congratulations on the upcoming baby! This is a fun thread.

When I was 13, I read Dragonsbane and loved the character Jenny so much that I decided that would be my future daughter's name. 10 years later, Jenny Simone (for Nina Simone, one of my favorite singers) arrived. Now that she's older, I sometimes wonder if "Jenny" is a great name for an adult, but the name still means something to me, and thankfully, my daughter likes it.



I've always been a huge fan of the Tomb Raider series, and I was really happy when my wife liked the name too for a future girl, if we have one (mind you, I didn't mention that I wanted to name our daughter after Lara Croft haha).

At least in reference to "Lara Croft" the name Lara makes me think of someone who is strong, smart, and self-driven. :)


Well, you could always borrow from classic mythology.

Perhaps Athena, Daphne, Artemis, Demeter, Diana or one of the others listed here:


@earlyre: This happened with my friend's sister. She ended up Milissa because the nurse apparently couldn't understand her mother, nor spell. :-/


It seems, for 'originality''s sake(one of our current national obsessions) that the apparent rule for a girl's name is to add 'ea' or 'ia' to the end of most any word or name and BANG! they's original.
Not saying it's a good rule, just that it's out there.


I don't know what games you like, but I've been pretty into Dragon Age lately. Leliana is beautiful, as is Morrigan and Anora. Anora Rose Anderson would sound nice. Leliana Grace would sound pretty too (Leliana's favorite flower was Andraste's Grace). Also, I have no idea where my niece got the idea, but she named her Daughter Trinity. I'm unsure if it was a religious thing (she doesn't practice at ALL, quite the opposite) or maybe from the Matrix, at least, I think that was the movie. She was tossing around Trinity Rose and Trinity Lynn, but ended up with a different middle name.
A while ago I was kinda into Blood Rayne, and I watched this movie called Stay Alive where if you die in the game, you die in real life. One of the character's names was October, which I thought sounded unique but not OUT THERE. I then thought October Rayne would sound very lovely until I mentioned it to a friend who informed me that there is either a song or a band called November Rain. And there went that.


also don't forget, to double and triple check any name related paperwork before signing off.
used to work with a girl, her name tag read Andrea. most people looked @ her name and said ANDrea, she pronounced it Ondrea, apparently it was Supposed to be Spelled Ondrea, but someone @ the hospital had either misread the handwriting, or "fixed" what they thought was an obvious Typo...


while admittedly not the most original answer, and not that you would ever have trouble remembering your child's birthday, but she's Due in april, so, Why not April?

my little pocket Calendar, has a guide in the back, with each month's birthstone,the stone's traditional meaning, and the traditional flower for that month
For April: Diamond(Innocence) Sweet Pea, Daisy

Diamond sounds like a stripper,
Sweet pea is more of a "pet" name,
so how about Daisy?
not super common, not really heard these days without being followed by Duck, or Duke.
If she would happen to arrive a little early,...
March: Bloodstone, Aquamarine (Courage) Jonquil, Daffodil
dunno if you'd want to call your daughter either "Joni(Jonny)", or "Daffy"...
that's My 2 cents anyway


Have you heard the story of a girl named Beth,
now known as Tex, who's name fits like a glove?

I love the older Victorian names - Eleanor, Elizabeth, etc. But name 'normalcy' changes with the decades. And with most of this generation naming their kids Braedon, Brooklyn, Madison, or the oh-so-famous La-A (La dash uh) picking a name from a popular franchise won't be too out of line with normal.


@bindsocket: Good gravy, "Alley cat"? I am sorry to laugh at your daughter's misfortune, but the full name is beautiful. It's good that nothing offensive (that I can think of) rhymes with her full name.

I have seen "ah-lah-nah" spelled "Alanna" more often than "Alana". I have never seen "ah-lay-nah" not spelled "Alena" or "Elena" (derived from Helena, thus similar sounding and spelled). So that makes her name, to me, unique. I am guessing it is too late to add that extra "n" or that you would want to.


Naming a child after someone you love (NOT an EX-GIRLFRIEND) is always good .


For starters, my daughter's birthday is April 3rd, so good day for it.
When we were going through the process of picking a name (and it pretty much lasted the whole nine months of the pregnancy) we first eliminated any names in the census' top 20 girl names for the previous couple years. We already knew the middle name as my wife had a family member she wanted to name our daughter after. After that we went through name books/lists to find one that went well with the middle name. We ended up with Alana Kathleen, I always call her Ali Kat which she'll probably grow to hate as she gets older.
One thing we did not foresee were alternate pronunciations of her name (al-ah-na is the one we use but we get al-ay-na quite frequently), we had assumed there was only the one.


Just remember when she's older and wants to get a license plate for her bike, or a pen/pencil, a keychain with her name, etc. Will she be left out? Or you could special order some of those things when they are popular among her friends.

Now for the Star Trek name suggestions...
Jadzia (DS9)
Marina (Deanna Troi on TNG)
Majel (Gene Roddenberry's wife)
B'Elanna (Voyager)


I always liked the name Capgun. It has a nice ring to it.

We stuck with classic names for our girls. I named one Denise and the other DeOtherNiece... My brother never forgets their names.

Molly Catherine and Anna Elizabeth. They're timeless. Everyone knows the name. The girls get the response "I really like that name!" and it honestly seems genuine, and the best part is -- they're not really that common in today's world of babies (seems like everyone is naming girls Emma, Riley, Brooklyn, Ava, Isabelle, and Kaelyn -- any form of spelling is allowed I think -- and off the wall crap like Paisley -- PAISLEY?).

I agree with the notion that these kids will eventually have to be taken seriously so some names from movies or video games might not be the greatest idea. Although some of those names are unique enough but still sound like names. Cambria is one that comes to mind.

Best Bet: Keep it simple and pretty -- and keep it classic. Nothing wrong with playing it safe.


As Chris Rock said, fathers only have one job as a parent of a daughter...make sure she doesn't wind up on the pole:
*It is Chris Rock... so you know, language and such.

Some of the names people have suggested won't make her a stripper in 18 years, obviously, but they sure won't help keep her off it. I know it's boring, but more common names and more common spellings of names will make them feel less like social outsiders.

I will just say that if you find a name that means something to both you and your SO agrees (or vice versa), go for it. Just be prepared to explain it when she asks how you came up with her name. Btw, giving her a middle name of one (or two) of your parents/grandparents will be a great idea and endear both you and your daughter to that person for life.


Let's see... Lara (Croft) is pretty. We have an Alexia Katlen (Lexi-Kat), McKenna Nicole (Kenna), Jazlyn Joelle (Jazzy) and Elaina Josephine (EJ or JoJo). Congratulations and Good Luck! :-)


i like Zoey. someone else mentioned Kaylee from Serenity. how about just Serenity?


I personally have always loved Zoe. It means life in Greek, so it's not totally a nerdy/gaming reference in the end.

Piper is cute :)

And Lillian is pretty.

Sorry, I am not the best at naming kids, I have issues naming my pets, lol!~


@curtisuxor: You are the only sane one here. Well, Eleanor maybe a little 2 centuries ago but Ellie is good. My advice to the expectant parents is; What name would you want to be raised with? Don't play Hollywood and Rock star and name your child some dumbass name. Keep it in the family and don't embarrass your kid.


Marleigh, Kamiah, where on the short list for my new baby girl.


Kaywinette Lee. From Firefly/Serenity. And you could use Kaylee for short.


@hirshy: if i met a person named sansa i would ask if they were named after an inexpensive mp3 player.

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I think Arya and Sansa (Game of Thrones) are really good names


I'll second lily (lilith) - i've always liked that name. Here's a scene from Ted (cleaned up) of names to avoid, so your daughter won't get hit with a certain stigma ;)


@devexityspace: You will have to take extra care to meet the men she dates. Count the heads!


Trillion ;)

Tricia McMillan)


Had an interesting conversation at the airport over the weekend with a lovely new mom. Her daughter was named "Hero," and her newest son, "Titan." Shakespeare lives on in the hearts of some. It was refreshing to hear there were no unusual spellings, accent marks where none need be, or any other "let's be different & saddle our child with our nonsense."

(This is written by one cursed with an uncommon name that is constantly mispronounced.)


ada, for ada lovelace
grace, for grace hopper

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@ryanwb: You clearly don't know what are cool first names. "Airwolf" would be great for a boy or a girl! .-)


Audio Science..

i feel bad for the kids with weird names and by continuation for society.


Okay! How about Angelinda Cerise Anderson? It's unique, there's plenty of meaning, and it's not a headscratcher or a target for ridicule. Good luck with your baby! And remember the old joke about how Native American babies get their names, if you want a good laugh.


@ryanwb: no, but they could easily have named you Jan, Michael, or Vincent.
@devexityspace: Jayne Cobb Anderson.

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