questionsany recommendations on a man's wedding band…

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I bought a fashion ring from Tanga, and besides it being a little big because I didn't know my ring size, it was pretty good.

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I don't know about tungsten rings. Mine is tungsten carbide. I've had mine for 5-6 years and it's still very shiny and no scratches or dings. It's true that you cannot resize it. (mine is starting to get snug, but I need to lose weight) Also, be aware that they cannot be cut off of your finger if you need it removed in an emergency. (broken finger or something) Instead, you have to whack it with a hammer or squeeze it with pliers to crack it apart due to its extreme hardness.

Edit: Looking at your links, for $15 you really can't go wrong. Men don't have much of an attachment to a specific ring. As long as your wife doesn't mind, you can always upgrade/replace it later.

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Go for it. If you are really worried about getting fat and not fitting buy two, one in a bigger size. Maybe 3. They are 15 bucks each. Maybe even more, that way you can secretly keep some in reserve for when you lose them, avoiding (or at least postponing) the "You lost your ring, you don't care about me!" conniption fit.

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I bought a bunch of tungsten and titanium rings from tanga and wear them as thumb rings and i love them. I also gave my husband a nice one to wear on his wedding finger.

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No opinion on the suitability of this ring or that, but I think you might want to just pause for a minute and consider the symbolism of "Honey, I bought the wedding ring at a discount web site. It only cost me fifteen bucks!" Is your fiancee the type of person, and your relationship the type of relationship, that won't take that amiss?

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@codex: Personally, I wouldn't marry a person who cared about how much I paid for it. No matter the price, it still has the same meaning.
You're right, though. It's best to avoid any future arguments by asking if she cares about that sort of thing upfront.

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@schwaumlaut I was slightly worried about that too -- went in and got sized at the local jeweler though.

@bsmith1 wow, never would have thought about them not being able to get the ring off...interesting!

@wilfbrim I know, I thought about picking up the next size or two as well!

@codex and @bsmith1 -- not a problem, we've definitely had discussions on it. I was very hesitant about it upfront, but then again, we were looking at the same (at that point tungsten rings at a local jeweler) that were in the $200-$300 range -- that's what these are "orginally" priced at...
In fact, when I talked to her about it this morning, she was like: "Wow, I like them! I could even afford to buy it for you too!"
I would have felt very "cheap" to have spent that on her ring, but it's different for me...

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@sgrman05: "I would have felt very "cheap" to have spent that on her ring, but it's different for me..."

I agree. We had the means to get her a nicer ring, so we did. It's different for me because I want her to have nice things because she deserves the best. Also, I want her to be proud of her ring and show it off. You never hear guys ask to see one another's rings. Women tend to care more about what other women might think and they examine one another's rings all the time. Especially when they just got engaged/married.

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@bsmith1: We had to replace our rings this year. I'd not worn my original wedding band for about 5 years - just didn't fit any longer (ain't 18 any more).

Bought some tungston rings and have been very happy (had to send the orignal set back as the sizes ran a bit smaller than we sized out at).

Just for the record - it's easier to buy a new ring than lose the weight. I found that out!

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My husband and I both have titanium bands and we both love them! I found the seller on Etsy and they were both super inexpensive (mine was $40, goes well with my white gold/diamond engagement ring - his was less than $100, I think close to $80). They're holding up well (it's only been a year) and the sellers were just a dude making the rings and his wife doing the financial/marketing end, so it was cool to have them be a little more personal than buying from a random website. Worst case is we replace them with the same style but larger if we end up getting obese, and since they're pretty inexpensive it won't really be a big deal. They're pretty unique looking (but not crazy) and we're both really happy with our rings. If you get a more inexpensive ring you can easily replace it with the same style if you need to get it larger.

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@sgrman05: @bsmith1's point about emergency/medical crews being able to cut the ring off is important. Based on stuff I've read but no first-hand knowledge, EMTs/ERs have reportedly gotten better about recognizing tungsten and having the proper equipment to remove it as it's become more popular (although I admit that I'd still hesitate to wear a tungsten band). Part of the original concern about tungsten and emergency removal is that it was initially very popular among individuals who were at high risk for damage to gold wedding bands for exactly the same reason that they were at high risk for crushing or mangling injuries to their hands that would require immediate removal by EMTs/ERs.

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@wilfbrim: Off topic, but I haven't heard the term "conniption fit" (AKA hissy-fit) in a while. Southern roots? :)

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@jsimsace:

Yeah, I was thinking the same thing... conniption is something my mom used to say.

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I got a black tungsten ring from tungsten forever. I've had it for 2 years. Everything the others have said is true - hasn't dulled or gotten scratched up, has to be broken off if you can't take it off, can't rezise etc.

The good thing about where I bought mine from is lifetime replacement, even if I break it myself. There is a $29 fee or something but it's cheaper than a new ring. I can even get a different size if I want to.

All in all, I recommend tungsten highly. Glad I got what I got and wouldn't think about having something different.

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My husband and I got married almost a year ago. Since it was the second marriage for both of us, and since neither of us pretty much cared about the whole diamond/gold thing but very much wanted matching bands, we actually ordered a tungsten carbide matching ring set from an ebay seller.

Total cost was probably less than $40 shipped, and that included personalized engraving on the inside of both rings. Personally, we are both extremely happy with them. Most comfortable ring I've ever owned.

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I don't think it's the cost so much that's the issue.

But I think it does mean something when everyday of your life you're wearing a ring that your husband/wife put on your hand the day you were married. I'm not saying that accidents don't happen. They do,life is messy. And sometimes rings and other important things get lost or have to be replaced.

But that's different from getting a ring with the thought in mind that "eh, it isn't that expensive, I can buy a few for when my weight goes up and down"

I think the real question the two of you have to sit down and ask yourselves, is ten years, twenty years from now, will either of you regret or resent that one of you is wearing, looking at every day, the same band from the day you wed, while the other is one number 3 or 4?

It's about meaning more than money I think. When you look down at the replacement ring will you see the ring your wife put on your finger? Will she? That's a question only the two of you can answer.

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@anoted: Good point.
Hadn't thought of it that way before. Thanks.

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@sgrman05: Some people keep grass rings or plastic fair rings or cheap dollar rings that were all they could afford that they proposed with or were married with long after they replace them. For some people, the object itself holds great sentimentality and meaning. For some, they just need the memory. Some couples never take their rings off and find the gesture of wearing them very important. Some are just as committed but don't wear rings for practical reasons or because it's just not important to them. Their marriage is, rings, not so much. It's important to now find out what sort of little things are important, to the two of you as a couple and individually. Maybe only one of you finds symbols important personally. You need to figure that stuff out and voice your opinions. The fact that the symbol is important to one person is generally enough to make it important to the other. They may seem like just steps to go through, but the purpose behind them is far more important.

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@anoted: wow...I'm really oddly preachy today. What is up with that?