questionswhat should i do for my resigning coworker?


i worked as a contractor at microsoft for 3 months. my entire team took me out for a farewell lunch. good people.

i've worked at a lot of companies and none of them have really done anything official when someone was leaving. usually, we'd all just get together after work at a bar or restaurant.


Around here the tradition is a ceremonial walk to the parking lot with a security escort within a day or two of turning in your notice.

We're not encouraged to attend, but I'd imagine there's probably cake out there waiting for them.


Depends on the circumstances, the person, and the timing. We've done everything from going away lunches or happy hours, to having someone pack up his office in the dead of the night, with no email or anything to people to say goodbye.


Our company is like @90mcg112's, it really depends on the person and the circumstance. If they've only been here a couple years and are going to work for a competitor, then likely they will get verbal goodbye's from everyone and an exit interview with the executives. Unless they are really well liked then they will get a happy hour goodbye party. If they are leaving for retirement, leaving the workforce for parenthood, moving, etc, then they get full fledge party with gifts and likely a going away lunch with their dept.


If anyone turns in their two week notice at my work, you have to say your good-byes before lunch. The boss will accept your two week notice and sometime after lunch she will approach you and tell you not to worry about working out your notice and to leave.


Where I am you get taken out to a "going away lunch" usually at the same BBQ place. The group leader generally gives a little "work eulogy" and gives you a chance to say a little something. You usually get something from the group, a signed picture at least. If you've been there forever and/or are leaving for medical reasons you'd probably get a little model (we've lost four guys to cancer over the last about 8 years, two within six months of each other. So we're all a little more sensitive to major medical stuff). It's not much, but it's something.
I've always wondered why we go out to lunch when people leave but not when people join the team. You'd think a group lunch would be a good way to get to know someone.


As I said, we are similar to @90mcg112 and @lmensor in our practice. Funnily enough, this Friday is the last day for another guy and there is a happy hour for him, but not this guy. The guy from my dept is much less social within the company and has few "work friends." The other guy interacts with many more people on a daily basis due to his job, and his leaving is giving some people an excuse to get together at the bar - not sure it is really about him at all.

I definitely think we will do lunch tomorrow, and one of the guys that work for me is planning on bringing in a cake for him Friday - that is not the usual source of the cake but he will appreciate it more than if it was from the management team.


@gt0163c: interesting point - we actually have a group lunch, but at the cafeteria, with a person on their first or second day. And there is usually an effort to have a couple of people join the new person for lunch for at least the first week. In my small group, there is occasionally an outing early on with a new person, but certainly not to the same extent as when someone leaves. As you pointed out, it makes a lot of sense to do that with a new person to welcome/get to know them. Since we will likely get a replacement for this guy at some time in the (hopefully near) future, I will have to keep that in mind.


Please do SOMETHING, even if it's just lunch and a small cake. For almost ten years, the job of helping to plan farewell lunches, holiday meals, remembering the birthdays, etc., fell to me. If you left, even after being there for a year or so, you got a lunch at the office, either catered or a pot luck (we had marvelous cooks), a cake and cards.
When I left I think I got a card. That was it. No lunch, no cake. Granted we were in the middle of "belt tightening" and had been severely curtailing our catered lunches, but it still hurt.
Thankfully, the crap that was going on with day to day operations made me glad I could afford to say "I'm retiring & going to goof off with my husband."


When I gave notice at my last job I worked till the end of my shift and was told I didn't need to report for the next two weeks and they'd pay me my accrued leave. That was it, I was a good employee and had loads of responsibility but once I gave notice then that was the end of the relationship.


@lavikinga: Wow. They were probably expecting you to throw your own party! The occasion will not go unnoticed here, at least by those of us working with him. The higher ups are spending all of their time trying to get him to stay, so I'd say he gets the impression that he is a valued employee. We are currently in the middle of a fairly significant culture change here so there has been some decent turnover and I think people leaving has almost become routine to the folks here.