questionswhat is a good "i'm sorry" gift?

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Write them a song and keep the 1000 dollars.

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I would say that the thing to do that, to me, would be to get something that they would not expect. What I mean by that is: there are things that people (especially loved ones) tell us, in passing, that made them extremely happy,something from their past they wish they still had, an addition to something they really take interest in etc. Remembering passing things that might seem "everyday" would be a great impact and a good way of saying - see, I do listen and I do love you - I just messed up. It is a good start to saying I am sorry. If someone can't recall an instance like that, then remembering a special occasion isn't the only thing they need to work on.

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If it is a friend, or a non-nuclear family member (maybe extend that to grandparents, maybe) then an apology and a small gift of something of significance / relevance to the individual is probably fine. I had one friend call me to remind me that it was another friend's birthday... and oh, right, they share a birthday. Dropped the ball on that one. Doesn't have to be an expensive thing, just something that is highly relevant to their interests.

In terms of close family members / relationship partners, I don't think it is a matter of price. Buying a thing to repair a situation is like offering a bribe, except rather than hoping for a normal situation to become better than normal, you are just trying to get things back to baseline. At least for serious situations.

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Best "I'm Sorry" gift?

Time, patience, understanding, forgiveness, and love. Those are priceless.

If you somehow felt it necessary to buy them something, well get over that feeling and then donate some of that cash to the American Red Cross.
http://deals.woot.com/deals/details/2da647cc-4a15-4b71-85ae-884a628161fa/american-red-cross-text-2-help#3

But I don't believe in the racketeering the cell companies are making doing that, so you could always do this:

http://www.redcross.org/portal/site/en/menuitem.d8aaecf214c576bf971e4cfe43181aa0/?vgnextoid=46f51a53f1c37110VgnVCM1000003481a10aRCRD&vgnextfmt=default

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For a guy, I think a new grill with the biggest steak you could find would be awesome. Also, tickets to the NBA Finals (may be too expensive) or season tickets for a college football team would be more than enough if anyone ever wanted to tell me they're sorry about something.

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i'd get them some discount lingerie.

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How badly do you have to screw up to spend $1000? Man, I'd bake some cookies or something. I guess you could score a sweet cookie jar along with that: http://deals.woot.com/deals/details/9536e08f-1729-4303-9c82-c392c5d370a9/vader-cookie-jar#0

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I'm with gatzby what did you forget that it will cost you $1000 to fix?

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Gushy answer: If forgiveness has to be bought (over a sincere apology), is it really worth having?

If so, one or a combination of the following:

A puppy
An Xbox
A trip (Vegas personally, but whatever)

And cookies never hurt. This is just semantics. If you want to throw a couple cookies at us, we’ll take a couple. The big thing is, is that we’re all moving on.

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@packman711: everyone likes PUPPIES! and kitties

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@w00tgurl: Just make sure to poke holes in the box, otherwise it's going to cost you a lot more than a grand to apologize for THAT mess.

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Nothing living (that goes for flowers, puppies, and kittens). Edible is never a bad idea - maybe a nice bottle of wine or something similar? Money's never going to make up for thoughtlessness, perhaps just soften the blow distractingly.

@w00tgurl - that would have to be some designer puppy/kitty for $1000! (Nothing says sorry like purebred!)

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This is not the answer you want to hear...
Buying a nice gift will only serve as a reminder of how you messed up every time they see it. A sincere apology and a temporary gift like flowers, dinner, or @gatzby cookies will fix most mistakes. And won't make it look like you think they can be bought.

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If you really are sorry, offer and apology and a solution to the mistake. Keep your word, follow through, and all should work out. Now if you say you will do one thing and end up doing another, then you have other issues to address. Best gift for a man, is a delicious home cooked meal. You can't beat a good meal. If you can't cook, get him a nice knife or a new gun, but make sure to research what he likes. You don't want to buy a man a 9mm handgun when the smallest caliber weapon he chooses to use is a .45, and at the same time, you don't want to buy a man a chinese knife when he prefers german carbon steel or an American made knife. Research is the key to a good gift. Oh yeah, power tools are always good too. With power tools, you can look at the brand of tools he already owns and buy an addition to that set.

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If you are near a local winery, set up a weekend there, booze 'em up, hit the hotel spa if they have one. The person is looking for you to be personal with your gift so tailor it to their desires,,i.e. hit up a sex shop and buy something fun to take on your trip.

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Really, if it's a spouse, there isn't anything you can buy to make up for forgetting the anniversary. Or the birthday especially if it's say a week before your own birthday. For the forgotten, it just sucks. You need to apologize and grovel.

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Go to glasscards.biz and design a custom card made entirely of glass for her. Write something sweet on it (of course, include that you are sorry). The real way to a woman's heart is through great card, and there really is no other cards that are more romantic cards than these. You'll thank me later.