questionsdo you behave differently on-line?


I find myself to be less awkward online. It really helps when you can actually sit and think about the things you're going to express. I must say that I'm also a bit braver and more opinionated when online as well. Please don't take that to mean that I'm rude or anything, I just find that when there's someone who's extremely vocal around me IRL, I tend to just shut up so as to avoid possible confrontations.


I second the "more thoughtful" comment. I find it more difficult to fully express and communicate how I feel IRL because I don't always get enough time to process my answers or responses. Here, I have the option of double checking my understanding of someone else's comment or question, as well as checking the clarity of my own.

People also seem to be a lot more genuine in their online communications. I don't have to wade through as much passive aggressive b.s. as I do IRL. So that helps.


Communication online has its problems with frequent misunderstandings due to the lack of non-verbal cues. This is somewhat compensated for by the use of emoticons and, in some environments, the use of italics & bold fonts. Because of this, I make an effort to be more careful when writing & always try to read what I have written from someone else's perspective, looking for other interpretations & hidden, though unintended, meanings. I also try to edit down what I have written, removing unneeded phrases and words.

Much of my communication IRL is also written (email) and I try to follow these guidelines as well. However, when speaking directly with someone, I am not as careful and also tend to joke around a bit more, especially with people who know me better than most. I also do not cut people as much slack when communicating in person.

Regardless of my manner, I do try to present myself as the same person, meaning that I hold to the same set of opinions and beliefs IRL and online.


Oddly, I almost wish I could be different online from IRL. Granted, written vs oral communication is necessarily different, and that translates online. But it would be really interesting to create an entirely different persona, with an exciting history, and see how far & how long one could go with it. Seems too much work for me, though.


I would say yes. When you are online, you feel a bit more liberated than in-person -- specially when talking to strangers. On another note, I think even when you talk with those people you know you are more "free" to be yourself online.


Not really....I kind of lack the social restraint that is normally required of functioning members of society. I'm just lucky I'm so damn good looking, otherwise I'd never be able to get away with such nonsense :3


I'm the same d-bag in real life that I am online.


The only differences for me are
a) I can google links to back up what I'm saying
b) I can re-read and edit out unusually snarky tones in my words.

Can't edit or hyperlink in IRL. Other than that - I'm about the same.


I tend to be a little more "reserved" online. IRL I am a nutball with a bizarre sense of humor and it doesn't always translate well without a bunch of smilies and lols.


This is a topic that has been studied in great deal, dating back to the days of bulletin boards and chat rooms. Most of the research shows that people who are generally more reserved have a tendency to be a bit more outgoing, and one study actually showed that over time this had a positive impact on the way they acted IRL. If you want links to some studies let me know and I will provide you with material that will put you to sleep faster than warm milk. (C:

One experience I have had, on several unfortunate occasions, is what was previously mentioned, i.e. the lack of emotional expression in internet communicatiions. I apparently write emails like an asshole, without the intent of being said asshole. I guess that is my super power, or splinter skill if you see me from the autistic spectrum.


@mcowan3: "I guess that is my super power, or splinter skill if you see me from the autistic spectrum."

In this case, wouldn't it be a sphincter skill? ;)

I tend to this problem (ie. comming off as an arrogant anal sphincter) IRL, especially when it comes to technical things. I've worked hard for 20 years to counter it, and mostly succeed, but at times it rears its ugly head yet again.


Like others have said, I'm far less awkward online. In real life, I'm socially inept and really shy. My sense of humor is the same either way, and often times doesn't come across well on the internet.