questionsdo you ask for donations for your birthday?

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I have a number of friends who have asked for money for charities for their birthdays, weddings and such. Usually if they're having a party the invite will mention something about not wanting gifts but trying to raise money for a charity. Other friends have Amazon wishlists and have added charity donation items onto their list (does make for some interesting comments from people who don't quite get why someone wants a cow for their wedding. :) ). And some other friends have just made it known through just casual conversations and over the course of life that they like getting charity donations for presents.

I don't think it makes you a jerk if you can figure out how to word the request so that it doesn't come off like you're asking for present/donations.

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I think it's a kind and excellent idea. Usually you would put the following phrase on the invitation:

*In lieu of gifts, please celebrate my birthday by making a donation to the Society for the Preservation of Hollyhocks."

You would then provide a web site link, and a mailing address. This is not even uncommon. I send you a virtual hug for this thoughtfulness.

:-D

[Edit] As a nice example, here's some cards for a wedding.

http://wishuponawedding.org/shop/order-in-lieu-of-gifts-invitation-enclosure-cards/

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Yes. To my checking account. I'm a college student, so I need all the monies I can get.

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Some time ago, I did. I told people a few local charities which I'd be happy if they wrote a check to on my behalf. A few people did. At some point, I decided I liked getting gifts so stopped asking people do that.

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I've never done it myself but some people can make it work for them.

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obama is asking people to donate to his campaign instead of giving gifts when they attend a wedding or birthday. According to his people, it's a lot more significant gift than a gravy bowl. I guess Michelle doesn't let him eat gravy any more...

I see it as a way to get out of having to spend anything on a gift. SURE.... I donated on your behalf...