questionsany advice for a father to be?


Congratulations! Store up sleep and calm as much as you can before the baby arrives, especially once you get closer to the delivery date because things can get very unpredictable and hectic. And enjoy.


1. No coffee or otherwise strong smelling anything in the delivery room.
2. Swings ruin babies' sleep habits. They're nice until you have a two year old that can't fall asleep without being rocked.
3. Lightweight durable stroller. It goes in the car out of the car up the stairs down the stairs but NEVER on an airplane (that's what the cheap ones are for)
4. Hang on for the ride of your life good luck and congratulations!


Enjoy the first three months when the kid doesn't want anything to do with you. Don't feel offended by the childs lack of desire to hang out or sleep on you. Just remember you aren't the one with the milky goodness he/ she wants. Just be there when you can be.

People say your life changes when you have a kid, but for dads it is a false sense of change as not much changes for you in the first month. Then all of a sudden they get older and the mom gets tired and you are on duty more often.

Once the breast feeding is over, share the nightly duties.


Be flexible. Be aware that your delivery might not go exactly as you would like, but the important thing is that you get a healthy baby - that trumps all the hows for getting there. When my wife and I brought ours home from the hospital for the first couple weeks we had to trade nights of watching our son so that we could each get some sleep.

Also, if this is your first, I would recommend keeping an open mind on formula vs. breast milk. We really badly wanted to feed but ultimately couldn't pull it off in volumes and frequencies that our son needed so to formula we went. Breast feeding isn't easy for all new moms, and it isn't worth harming yourself to try to pull it off.

Oh, and that huge pile of bibs that your wife was given at the baby shower? You'll need them when you child starts teething; they are for drool more than food :)


@mrsbeny: I disagree with the swing comment. Our son used a swing extensively for his first year or so and was able to fall asleep fine without it once we moved away from it. Of course, all things in moderation...

That said I highly recommend the swings that plug in to the wall, so you don't have to worry about running out of batteries at an inopportune time.


@lparsons42: Fair enough. My eldest got to the point where she was one and a half and needed to be held or rocked or swung to bed. We never tried the swing with the younger ones based on that experience. They were satisfied being laid down in the play pen or a bouncer (when able to hold their head up) and I felt that their sleep habits were better. Personal opinion of course.


The best thing I found was the movie The Happiest Baby on the Block. It's entirely cheesy, but I found it very helpful. You could probably pick it up at the local library since you probably won't need to watch it more than once. There is a book also, but I can't speak for that.

We bought one of those fancy diaper trashcans and I think it was a complete waste of money. It didn't really work very well and depending on the kinds, some of the bags get really expensive. I recommend newspaper bags for the dirty diapers. You won't really need them until the solid food starts so you have a little while to start collecting. Put the stinky diaper in, twist to close, reverse the bag back on itself if it's a real knock out and then throw it away in any other trash can. It's recycling so it's even good for the environment.

All that being said, every situation and child is different. Do what works for you and try to ignore a lot of the unsolicited advice; there will be a lot of it.


1. Buy diapers now. We bought two boxes of 1s and 2s and they lasted a long time. Don't buy newborns until the delivery date since you won't know the child's size. They outgrow them quickly and 1s will fit early on.

2. Same with clothes. Don't buy a bunch of cutesy newborn clothes until the delivery. Never know the size of the kid. Don't anticipate too much about 3 month, 6 month, etc... sized clothes. You would hate to get 6 month winter clothes only to realize your kid outgrew them before January. I speak from experience.

3. Find a pediatrician now. Discuss developmental strategies and make sure you are both on the same page. Have seen new parents being told something by their pediatrician they didn't agree with and it caused some friction. Not saying what is right or wrong, but there is more than one way to skin a cat.

4. Have fun and enjoy. They do grow up sooooooo fast.

-1st time DAD of 7 month old


Congratulations! I'm also a recent first time dad (my son will be 7 months old next week). Here are a few of the things that we've learned along the way.
1.) Every baby is different. Figure out what works for you. (Source: 4 new babies/first-time-parents in my family in the past 13 months).
2.) The first few weeks/months can be tiring and difficult. There's nothing like a screaming baby at 3:00am in the morning even though you just fed him, burped him, changed him, etc. Focus on the fact that life is amazing (even when it's screaming at you). Take deep breaths and relax, the baby can sense your frustration.
3.) Accept all of the help that people are willing to give you. If your family and friends want to make you dinner or offer to watch the baby for a little while so you can take care of household chores, let them.
4.) Have fun and take lots of videos and pictures!


I posted this same product on devexityspaces's question. He was not to enthused about sucking on snot but I tell you this thing is one of the handiest gifts we received.

Oh, and congratulations!


Um, I unlocked some cheat codes for my kids not sure they will work on yours.

To help sleep: gently rub slightly above between the eye brows down to the mid bridge of the nose.
Really stubborn nights is the drive around the block.

To help get them to eat: Chew big red and gently allow them to smell your breath. It will wake them up.


Also: if the baby is restless and can't seem to get to sleep, put him/her in a carrier, set it on top of your dryer, and run the dryer for 20 minutes or so. Dryer's are imbued with magical properties that put most babies to sleep quickly. You may also find a nice peaceful car ride tends to put babies (and toddlers and me) to sleep.


@mrsbeny: Indeed, every child is different. FWIW our son was effectively able to hold his head up when he was pulled out (C-section, though prior to regular due date). Granted, our son was 22" long and weighed 10lb 10oz (I like to say the scale went ding! when they placed him on it after pulling him out) at birth.

And of course at that, holding your head up is not the same as holding yourself up and holding your head up. Obviously he couldn't push himself up, but he had no trouble holding his head up if in a position where he could do so. The downside of such a large baby is he was literally born hungry. Before the Ob was done stitching up my wife to bring her back from the OR, our son had already drank a 4oz bottle of formula from the recovery room; my poor wife didn't have a prayer of keeping up with breastfeeding (neither of us are small - she's 6' and I'm 6'3").


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@rlapid2112: Yes it was an accident. He would not eat when newborn. I said well let me try, I just wanted to hold him, and suddenly he started drinking like a mad man. I was asked to pass him back, but he slowed and then stopped. So they handed him back and boom drinking like a starving child again. A bit of time and I found it was the gum.